This article was first published a few
months ago in the Serbian magazine SENSA. It is an introduction to my next blog
post about healthy snacks and desserts for kids.
I
haven't yet met parents who don't consider the health of their children to be of
the upmost importance. We all want what's best for our children, but when it
comes to nutrition we are often not persistent and find excuses. There is a
resistance to new and the unknown. We might curiously read numerous healthy
recipes on the Internet but then after a long and tiresome day we prepare beans
with sausages for the whole family (Serbian national dish).
I recall
my pregnant friends becoming obsessed with healthy food, and professing how
they would only give their kids healthy foods and no carbonated drinks or
chocolate. I was the same, and I do believe that studying macrobiotics with
Simon Brown helped me make healthier choices in the first few months when my baby
started to eat solids.
Macrobiotics
is often wrongly seen as a system of rigid rules where nothing but brown rice
can be eaten. On the contrary, we have moved away from those narrow views. The
answer lies in the name itself - you have heard this so many times, macro means
big and bios means life. Long life. That's what we want for
our kids and ourselves. I will not be defining macrobiotics here, like my
teacher Simon Brown says "macrobiotics means different things to different
people, but the food and its influence on our physical, mental and emotional
health is the epicentre of macrobiotics for all".
Macrobiotic
eating includes whole grains, vegetables, plant proteins like legumes and soy
products, sea vegetables, pickled vegetables, fermented foods like miso, nuts
and seeds, fruits and occasionally fish. I believe that healthy foods need to
be tasty and fun, so that our children create positive associations.
WE ARE THE GUARDIANS OF
KIDS' HABITS
Children
are like sponges; they soak in everything from their environment and instinctively
learn through imitating. I have learnt that I can't insist on my child not
eating chocolate if I am eating it. It is at the very least two-faced, and kids
very quickly notice when there are different rules for us adults! That leads to
inevitable comparisons and questions - 'Why
are they different from us?' That just additionally undermines the role of
parents as their child's first teacher. They are not different from us. We
forget how important and responsible we are as role models in their lives.
Simon
Brown says "kids have a greater
advantage because they don't conceptualise or try to eat according to rules,
but they simply get used to certain tastes and form habits". In order
to create a link between the foods we eat and the effects they have on us, offer
your baby a wide spectrum of healthy whole foods; that is the secret to intuitively
knowing what we nutritionally and energetically need. Kids won't crave green
leafy vegetables, roasted pumpkin seeds or brown rice later in life if they
have never tried it before. Which leads us to...
KEEP ONLY HEALTHY FOODS AT
HOME
You
know that - if you have chocolate at home, you'll eat it. Imagine how hidden
biscuits and chocolates are tickling their fancy, but they can't reach them or
they are told they are forbidden. So, fill your home only with healthy foods
and snacks that kids can reach whenever they want to. You can't protect them
from all the sugary temptations in the world, but you are the master of what is
in your kitchen.
Allow
kids to choose foods when you go shopping. Do give them a choice - shall we get
juicy red apples or sweet cherries, mini green broccoli trees or zucchini magic
wands? Make things up, rename foods together. It might be something you'll all remember
years later.
This
is also one of the ways for kids to create good habits and slowly take
responsibility for their own health through the choices they make. "Dismiss the usual belief that kids don't eat
vegetables because they don't like it, because that is not true", says
macrobiotic counsellor Aine McAteer. "Offer
them everything you want and don't have expectations. Pay attention how you
talk about healthy food. Avoid situations where you promise your child ice
cream if they eat vegetables."
SMILE AT THE TABLE
Food
is not an invitation for disciplinary actions. If your child wanders away from
the table (something most 2&3year olds often do), don't threaten him, raise
your voice or drag him back to the table; that will only create quite a stressful
situation for both of you. Keep his plate at the table, you continue with your
meal, sometimes gently invite him back and show how much you miss him there. Smile
at him. Offer him the food even if the rest of the family has finished.
Regardless of how much he eats, it's good. A hungry child will always eat.
Mealtime
is a unique opportunity for the whole family to gather and enjoy not only the
healthy food, but also spending time together. Tell stories, laugh, share your
day, food will be tastier with each mouthful.
LET'S NOURISH OUR KIDS
Kids
that haven't started walking yet shouldn't eat any salt; it can be dangerous
for their health. Afterwards you can start introducing very small quantities
and when they turn 6 they can enjoy the salty food that you eat. Therefore when
you cook for the whole family, always put aside a small portion for your kids
before you add any salt. Use only unrefined sea salt.
You
can prepare grain milk for babies and add some dry roast and ground sesame seed.
Use different grains - whole oats, brown rice, and barley, whatever you have at
hand.
If
your child doesn't like cooked carrots, offer it raw or slightly blanched, cut
into strips and serve with dips like hummus or different beans, or you can
grate carrots with other vegetables and fruits. Experiment; try all sorts of
different methods of cooking and serving. Kids quickly change their minds and
nothing is final!
It
is important how you present it! Be innovative, use cookie cutters for
vegetables or tofu, make blanched or grilled vegetable rolls filled with grains
and serve with dips. Let them play with it, food is supposed to be fun.
Include
as many wholesome ingredients into your child's diet, that is the best gift you
can give them!